Are we, as Jonah, reluctant to go to Ninevah if necessary to help our husbands when we feel they don't deserve it. Do we run from God's will in our homes?

Bible Studies for Women

Don't Take Your Home to Tarshish

Do you ever want to turn and run the opposite direction from which God tells you to go?

Years ago the prophet Jonah wanted to run from God's direction too:

The word of the LORD came to Jonah son of Amittai: "Go to the great city of Nineveh and preach against it, because its wickedness has come up before me."

But Jonah ran away from the LORD and headed for Tarshish. He went down to Joppa, where he found a ship bound for that port. After paying the fare, he went aboard and sailed for Tarshish to flee from the LORD.

--Jonah 1:1-3

God instructed Jonah to go to Ninevah. Why did he not want to go there?

But Jonah was greatly displeased and became angry. He prayed to the LORD, "O LORD, is this not what I said when I was still at home? That is why I was so quick to flee to Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity."

--Jonah 4:1-2

Jonah didnt want to go because he knew that the people of Ninevah didn't deserve God to forgive them. He knew if he preached to them they would repent and be forgiven.

When Jonah chose to go to Tarshish, he chose to go the exact opposite direction from the way God told him to go. Tarshish was south. If you look on a map, south is always down. When we run away from God, our life always heads into a downward spiral.

Sometimes we kid ourselves into thinking God approves our misbehavior. After all circumstances are right for it. What circumstances were right in Jonah's life to make it seem ok to go to Tarshish?

1. Jonah was able to find a boat to Tarshish.
2. The boat had room for him.
3. He had money for the fare.
4. There was a wind going toward Tarshish so the boat would sail.

What about in your home?

It is easy to decide our husbands dont deserve our kindness and helpfulness, just as Jonah felt about the people of Ninevah. We often find circumstances that seem to invite us to go the oppositie direction. We want to run from that which God has called us to be in our homes. We want to follow our own plans. God permits it, and the circumstances seem equitable to it.

According to the first chapter of Jonah, what are some things the sailors looked to for help before finally turning to God and following his directions?

All the sailors were afraid and each cried out to his own god. And they threw the cargo into the sea to lighten the ship. But Jonah had gone below deck, where he lay down and fell into a deep sleep (verse 5).

1. They looked to other gods, gods who could never help, gods with a little "g," not the only true God who could help them.

2. They tried to fix the problem themselves by throwing cargo overboard.

The captain went to him and said, "How can you sleep? Get up and call on your god! Maybe he will take notice of us, and we will not perish" (verse 6).

3. They asked someone else to pray for them before they prayed for themselves.

Then the sailors said to each other, "Come, let us cast lots to find out who is responsible for this calamity." They cast lots and the lot fell on Jonah. (verse 7).

4. They tried consulting mysticism by casting lots.

So they asked him, "Tell us, who is responsible for making all this trouble for us? What do you do? Where do you come from? What is your country? From what people are you?" (verse 8).

5. They blamed someone else. So often we are tempted to blame our husbands for the shape of our homes.

The sea was getting rougher and rougher. So they asked him, "What should we do to you to make the sea calm down for us?" (verse 11).

6. They asked advice from someone else before they consulted God.

"Pick me up and throw me into the sea," he replied, "and it will become calm. I know that it is my fault that this great storm has come upon you." Instead, the men did their best to row back to land. But they could not, for the sea grew even wilder than before (verses 12-13).

7. God showed them his solution through the other person. They refused to follow.

8. They tried to run away from the problem by rowing back to land.

How would you feel if God said, "Throw this man overboard, that is my solution!" They must have been appalled. How many times has God shown us something we are to do in relation to our husbands and we have said, "Oh, no God, anything but that!" We want to be independent. God says we are to be dependent on him.

Then they cried to the LORD, "O LORD, please do not let us die for taking this man's life. Do not hold us accountable for killing an innocent man, for you, O LORD, have done as you pleased." Then they took Jonah and threw him overboard, and the raging sea grew calm. At this the men greatly feared the LORD, and they offered a sacrifice to the LORD and made vows to him.

--Jonah 1:14-16

When they got right with God the storm ended. They did this by:

1. Calling out to God.
2. Recognizing Gods soverignty.
3. Obeying Gods instructions.
4. Fearing God.
5. Offering a sacrifce to God.
6. Making vows to God.

Some of their own solutions, for example throwing the cargo overboard, were sensible. But God's only acceptable solution was repentance and trust in him.

We have our own ideas of how things are to be done in our homes. As wives God tells us to be submissive to our husbands.

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.

--1 Peter 3:1

Anything short of that is running away, running to Tarshish, and God will certainly deal with it. This is not to say we should allow physical abuse and God's Word does have some things to say about desertion and fornication. But most of the time we break Gods rule for us as wives in the home because we just flat dont like it.

He answered, "I am a Hebrew and I worship the LORD, the God of heaven, who made the sea and the land."

--Jonah 1:9

Jonah was a Hebrew. By saying "I am a Hebrew," he was saying "I am one of those through whom God reveals himself to the world."

According to 1 Peter 3:1, if our husband is unsaved, we, as a Christian wife, are one of those through whom God reveals himself to our husbands.

Because Jonah refused to follow Gods will for him, those he was to be an example to suffered. These references are from the first chapter of Jonah:

1. They experienced great fear.

2. They had to throw some of their posessions overboard.

   All the sailors were afraid and each cried out to his own god. And they threw the cargo into the sea to lighten the ship. But Jonah had gone below deck, where he lay down and fell into a deep sleep (verse 5).

   This terrified them and they asked, 'What have you done?' (They knew he was running away from the LORD, because he had already told them so.) (verse 10).

3. They had to live with throwing a man overboard.

   Then they cried to the LORD, "O LORD, please do not let us die for taking this man's life. Do not hold us accountable for killing an innocent man, for you, O LORD, have done as you pleased." Then they took Jonah and threw him overboard, and the raging sea grew calm (verses 14-15).

   How would you like to have to live with that?

4. The worst thing of all that people had to suffer because of Jonah's rebellion was this: The people of Ninevah had to continue in darkness until Jonah repented.

If we refuse to follow God's plan for us in our homes, our husbands, our children, all in our household will suffer. We are accountable to God.

• God sent a great wind.

  Then the LORD sent a great wind on the sea, and such a violent storm arose that the ship threatened to break up.

  --Jonah 1:4

• God also sent a great fish.

  But the LORD provided a great fish to swallow Jonah, and Jonah was inside the fish three days and three nights.

  --Jonah 1:17

  God will chastise his children greatly, and God in his grace will also provide great protection for them even in the midst of the chastisement. The fish is a perfect example. It was chastisement. It was also protection.

Jonah summed it up in his prayer:

Those who cling to worthless idols forfeit the grace that could be theirs.

--Jonah 2:8

That is an awesome statement. How much we forfeit when we cling to our idols, our "rights" in our home. When we rebel against God's plan for us in 1 Peter 3:1, we forfeit the grace that could be ours.

We sometimes do this just by refusing to study the word that we might know God's will for us. We refuse to study and find out what his will is, then when we know his will we run from it, because we think it is too much to ask. We think our way is so much better. This is fleeing to Tarshish.

Those to whom Jonah should have been setting an example, the very ones who God had called him to minister to (for us as wives/mothers that is our husbands/children) -- those very ones are the ones who saw Jonah's disobedience and had to deal with it. They are the ones who were hurt by Jonah's disobedience. When Jonah repented and got right, people got saved.

At this the men greatly feared the LORD, and they offered a sacrifice to the LORD and made vows to him.

--Jonah 1:16

Ninevah repented and turned to God, all because Jonah said, "I was wrong. I have rebelled against God."

Jonah repented, and this opened the door for the lost to repent. The choice is ours: Either we run to Tarshish, and take our homes into the storm with us by refusing to follow God's plan for wives in the home; or we go to Ninevah as God has commanded by following 1 Peter 3:1.

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.

--1 Peter 3:1

Lord, we ask that you give us hearts to follow you. Whatever choices you are calling us to make, help us keep our eyes from Tarshish. Help us say "Yes," and go to Ninevah, even if it seems so hard. For we know your promise, and we thank you for this:

Those who cling to worthless idols forfeit the grace that could be theirs.

--Jonah 2:8

Thank you for that wonderful grace Lord. We love you and trust you, and to be in your plan for us is far more desirable than any Tarshish that may seem so convenient. Help us not choose convenience but rather obedience Lord. Thank you for your faithfulness when we do. Amen.